Before you read this page on spiritual happiness, please be aware

that in these turbulent times, I have cause to be concerned. Please

read this page and also our page What is Spirituality? to be fully


This page is my offering of spiritual happiness for ordinary people

only - so if you're a bit special, or a bit beautiful, or a bit out of the

ordinary in any way, please leave now. We will refund your money at

the door.

While the OOO's (Out Of the Ordinaries) make their way out, lets

talk about spiritual happiness.

What is it?

My old copy of Webster's Dictionary defines spiritual as: Pertaining

to or consisting of spirit; not material; incorporeal; pertaining to the

mind or intellect; mental; intellectual; pertaining to the soul or its

affections as influenced by the Divine Spirit; proceeding from or

controlled and inspired by the Holy Spirit etc. etc. etc. The same

defines happiness as: The state or quality of being happy etc. Click

this link for Wikipedia's definition of spirituality

In my experience, spiritual happiness is quite rare, and

characterized by the following traits: serenity, kindness, humility,

non-materialistic tendencies and of course the happiness just flows

from them. A spiritually happy person is in tune with and accepting

of themselves.They feel no need to impress anyone or to

compete.They love themselves (not in an egotistical way) the way

they are. So, is your spirit happy?

No? A great way to achieve a happy spirit is to give it room to

emerge as you learn to meditate

Studies have shown that children are more resilient when they have

some kind of spiritual belief system. Well, guess what?

A child + a few years + a few kilos = you and me! So, we are ALL

more resilient when we have spiritual beliefs.

If you clicked the above Wikipedia link you would have read that a

part of spirituality is the perception of a connection to 'something

bigger' than oneself. This does not mean we should cart ourselves

and everyone we care about to church every week. However, if you

do attend church and have found an organized religion in which you

can express your own spirituality that suits your needs, continue

merrily on your way!

Hands up who knows someone 'holier than thou' who attends church

every week, may even be on the committee and yet they can't

speak with civility to their own family? I can't quite see down the

back...oh yes, yes that's nearly everybody here! Thanks you can put

your hands down now. The scary part is that person thinks they are

spiritual/holy! They honestly believe walking into a building on a

regular basis and being nice to the people there (whilst being an -no

can't say that on the net- a 'less-than-nice person' six days a week)

makes them heaven-bound! Go figure!! Their God (or whoever)

must only work church hours!

There are obviously many thousands of people for whom organized

religion works - but the numbers of dissatisfied churchgoers are

climbing. Congregations are realizing that listening to a man in a

frock preaching from a rule book written centuries ago is not of

much real relevance in their daily lives. People are searching for a

more personal connection with 'something bigger' and yet many

more have found it.

Read about my personal connection here: The Path To Success

If you have tried an organized religion but it didn't sit well with you,

or you haven't even dipped your toe in the water, this page may be

the answer to your prayers (pardon the pun). Please be aware this

is not a criticism of churches. Many spiritually happy people do

attend church as a way of expressing their own spirituality - not

merely to ensure gaining admission upstairs when their big day

arrives! I'm not here to tell you what to believe, but given the

previous show of hands, it would be very difficult to believe spiritual

happiness is found inside a building.

Well then, where is it ?

Whether you think you're a spiritual being or not, your spirituality is

inside of you! Not in a building, nor in a rule book (but there are

some great books which can help you form your opinions/beliefs).

We are all spiritual beings i.e. we all have spirits. If you are ignoring

yours, you may be an unhappy person, or you may have an

otherwise 'perfect' life, but experience a gnawing emptiness you

can't quite put your finger on.

If I'm describing you, why not open your heart and mind to your

spiritual side?

Closed-minded people, having no spiritual beliefs, are ignorant of

the life-changing potential they are eschewing. Everything you need

is within you - you just need to find it!

Who do I ask?

It is not necessary to find yourself a 'guru' (especially if they want

thousands of dollars for the pleasure of speaking to you). Spiritual

happiness, like any form of happiness is an individual, personal

state. It is not up to anyone else to tell you what will suit you or

lead to your spiritual happiness.

Do you know someone with a happy spirit?

If you are well acquainted, they wouldn't mind answering your

probing questions. If you're not well acquainted, I should imagine

they'd be flattered by your opinion of them as 'happy' and by your

intrigue as to their spirituality. But be careful here, numerous people

put on a happy exterior for the world when they're really miserable

inside. Don't let 'happy' be your only search criteria - you should

also know this person is kind, content and 'together'. This person

also need not become your guru. They are just an information


  • Gather information. 
  • Ask different people. 
  •  Read.
  • Make your own decisions.
  • Visit some organizations of interest on fact finding missions

            be careful here too - there are some scary, weird cults out

            there that prey on the vulnerable, so take someone older

            and wiser with you).

           collect on your journey will slowly form your belief system. 

  • Don't believe everything you hear. 
  • Follow your intuition.
  • You are your own best guide.

Why Do I Need Spiritual Happiness?

When you develop your own spiritual beliefs,you will find life is


Depending on how long you search and how deep you delve, you

may also find answers to the "Why am I here?" type of questions.

They will be answers that make sense to you (and possibly

only you!).

Expanding your mind to encompass a 'big picture' view of your life

really helps you to make sense of it all. Making some sense of the

universe will assist you to overcome life's hurdles.

That sense of connection to something bigger will comfort you in

times of need, reassuring you that you are not in this life alone.

Imagine, just for a moment, you are walking through a seemingly

endless, dark tunnel, alone. You trip over several times when the

ground becomes uneven, but still you stumble on, not even aware of

why you are here or your ultimate destination. Your awareness is

limited to the fact that you are in this tunnel and one day you won't be.

NOW imagine that suddenly you become aware of a presence by

your side!

A welcome presence.

A welcome presence with a torch!

This presence knows the terrain and is able to help you negotiate

your way through the bumps and troughs. You trust this presence to

help you reach a destination of which you were previously unaware.

It also explains why you are in this tunnel to begin with.

At a certain point in your journey, the presence bids you to turn

around as it shines its torch on the path you have trod. To your

amazement, the bumps and troughs form a brilliant pattern to which

you were oblivious during your negotiation of them!!

Everything now makes sense: the tunnel, the bumpy terrain and the

need to move forward. This presence has given you a perspective

you would never have discovered alone.

And that perspective my friends, is spiritual happiness.

When Do I Need Spiritual Happiness?

The very short answer to this question is: every minute of every


You will find the more spirituality you discover inside yourself, the

more often you use it. The more often you become aware of a

connection to something bigger, the stronger that connection

becomes. The stronger that connection becomes, the happier you

become, spiritually. Unfortunately, there may be times in your life

when your spiritual beliefs are all you have to keep you going. Don't

be one of the many, many people who don't form their beliefs until

their world comes crashing down around them. If you spend some

time now really working out what feels right for you, then, should

your world come crashing down, your safety net will be firmly in


If you are a parent, its even more urgent to get your spiritual

happiness together, so you can be a great example to your kids.

(See comment above re resilience!) But bear in mind, whatever

suits you now may not be what feels right to them when they grow

up. They, too will need time and space to explore their own


How Do I Find This Spiritual Happiness?

I covered a lot of this answer above under 'Who Do I Ask?' when I

talked about finding someone you admire and asking them about

their spiritual side. Also very carefully, explore some

churches/spiritual organizations that may pique your interest. Also,

read, read, read, choosing the information that fits well with you, to

take on board.

However, there is one more very important action you can take if

you are to make your spiritual happiness complete.......and that is

learn to meditate You may be shocked to learn just how many

different religions and philosophies extol the virtues of meditation.

Everyone from Catholics to Buddhists use meditation in some form

or other.

To find the spiritual happiness you deserve, explore the spirituality

within you. Define your belief system and live it!

A happy life is incomplete without spiritual happiness!

Why am I extremely cross with you? Because you urgently

need an attitude adjustment