Is Your Happy Life Affected By Your Self Esteem?

Damn straight it is! In fact, if you don't have a decent level of self esteem, your Happy Life is nigh on impossible.

Your perception of yourself is a major determining factor in your life, affecting not only your emotional state on a daily basis, but every facet of your life from career choice to relationships.


"People of high self-esteem are not driven to make themselves superior to others. They do not seek to prove their value by measuring themselves against a comparative standard. Their joy is being who they are, not in being better than someone else."

Nathaniel Branden

Are you joyful in being who you are?

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Career Choice

You could be totally oblivious to the fact that you are the most gifted yak-comber in existence (especially if you've never been near a yak!) and be struggling along in some dead-end job, not utilizing your natural gift, and feeling bad about yourself. These feelings are continually reinforced as you proceed in your oblivion, never suspecting the latent brilliance within you. Your job performance may be mediocre, so you learn not to harbour any ambition, all the while damaging your perception of yourself.

Relationships

If you have formed a low opinion of yourself, this will be reflected in your relationships. You will choose the partner you feel you deserve. In fact, you probably won't choose - you will be chosen because you'll take whoever you can get.

Because you have little respect for yourself, you will demand little respect from your partner. You will stay in that relationship, no matter how unhappy, because you don't feel you could attract a better partner. You don't feel you could cope in this big, wide world without a partner, so you remain in an unhealthy relationship.

Emotional State

Healthy Self Esteem

People who know and love themselves (not in an egotistical way) and are happy in their skin, see the world from a totally different perspective than those with low self esteem.

Someone with healthy self-esteem doesn't really care what others think about them, because they know they're okay. They also know that anyone who may choose to judge them probably hails from Planet Low Self Esteem, and that is where envy, jealousy, and hatred live. Residents of Asteroid A-OK, on the other hand, live by the adage "what other people think of me is none of my business".

Low Self Esteem

Low self esteem manifests itself in the form of a myriad of issues! These can range from general unhappiness and lack of drive, to the extremes described below.

People who aren't that big a wrap for themselves often spend inordinate amounts of energy in the pursuit of other people's good opinions. They think if other people like them they must be okay (whilst still believing deep down that they're not okay ). This futile pursuit, however, only serves to back them into a corner. "Okay if x, y, and z like me but I still don't like myself that much, then I'll do whatever it takes to get A-Z to like me, and THEN I'll feel good about myself." WRONGO! This is how one steps on to the "keeping up with the Joneses" treadmill. And boy! when that baby starts up, it takes a lot of work to alight. This would have to be the most unhealthy treadmill in existence.

People who don't feel good about themselves try to fill that hole within them, usually with external things. They often become obsessed with outward appearances, thinking if they look good, others will like them and see them as perfect. In extreme cases they try to impress others by living in mansions, driving flash cars, wearing designer clothes (ok I'm busted! - see happy me). Sadly, they can often ill afford the extravagant lifestyles they think will make them likable, even popular. Often, they are so engrossed in others' opinions of them, they go into debt to keep up the pretense of being something they're not. The financial issues this creates in turn, can lead to a whole set of different, relationship issues.

How are you emotionally oriented, Planet Low Self Esteem or Asteroid A-OK?

Planet Low Self Esteem

Overview: Is not a nice place to live. Envy, jealousy, hatred are governing factors.

Geography: The largest of all the inhabited planets (luckily - as the population is growing at an alarming rate!)

Population: Is heavily populated by over-inflated egos unsuccessfully disguising their affliction. The residents of this planet often develop hearing problems, due to the incessant bragging of fellow-inhabitants.

Leadership: Is ruled by the Family Jones: perceived as loving and generous as they supply the population with treadmills, but in reality the treadmills are currency exchanged for esteem and likability.

Peculiarity: Inhabitants are issued with magnifying glasses at birth, with which to inspect, find fault with, then criticise loudly all other inhabitants (usually behind their backs so they're still likeable!). This strange sport is practised to help the participant feel "better" about themselves. Spotting someone less cool, popular, attractive, interesting, well-dressed, financial than themselves is a pastime peculiar to this planet. It was unsuccessfuly submitted as a competitive sport at the recent "Universal Games", due to lack of interest by the other competing planets.

Motto: I may not be great, but I'm better than you!

Asteroid A-OK

Overview: Serenity and harmony are the governing factors of life on this asteroid.

Geography: One of the tiniest asteroids in the universe, due to the dwindling numbers of inhabitants.

Population: Is sparsely populated by inhabitants striving to be the best they can be, irrespective of the opinions of others.

Leadership: Democracy: Everyone has something valuable to contribute.

Peculiarity: Has no defense forces. Even though this little asteroid is the envy of many, the inhabitants perceive no threat from outside. When encountering alien species, A-Okliens happily share their energy and knowledge. New residents are encouraged and warmly welcomed.

Motto: "I am unique. I am special. I am beautiful. I am Out Of the Ordinary. So are you."




Are You Living On The Wrong Planet?

Have you just discovered you're on the wrong planet? Up until now, did you think the whole world was envious, jealous, shallow, egocentric?

The good news is, Asteroid A-Ok orbits Planet Low Self Esteem, and it is possible for you to immigrate. You could start by dropping in to the clinic for an attitude adjustment if you haven't already.

If your attitude proves difficult to adjust, consider working with someone (someone with happy clients) to gain your entry visa to Asteroid A-Ok.

Our mentoring service will ensure you are soon living on the right planet.

Your Happy Life depends on it.

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