"I don't need happiness from within. I'll be happy when I....
am driving a porsche
live in a $5million mansion
have a family
am earning $.............
find the partner of my dreams
get a new job"
Whichever of the above applies to you, I'm sorry, but you've got it all wrong!
You will still be you when you achieve your goal, and if you're not happy now, how will driving a different car to work make you happy? Seriously, please tell me how the car you sit in on your way to wherever, can make you happy? You are still you in that car, job, house, family, marriage, relationship etc etc.
Puhleeeeaassee!! Don't go chasing happiness! It is not in any of those external 'things'.
Yep. You know I'm gonna say it......................Happiness is within you!!
If you seriously feel you cannot possibly be happy until you've achieved a,b,c,d,e,f,g,or even h - have a looooonnnggg, hard look at yourself. And then, if you haven't already, read this page happiness is a choice, but don't forget to come back here!
Okay, you're probably thinking "It's alright for her to be banging on about happiness, living in her little palace, surrounded by people she loves, living the glamorous life of a webmaster(!!) and author, etc etc etc" STOOOOOPPP!!
I'm sure I've said it before, but I'll say it again anyway, my life is FAR less than what you would call 'perfect', but I'm still happy, because happiness is within me, not in my palace, or my latest model laptop, or my designer clothes!
To prove to you the possibility of a less-than-perfect happy life, I have scoured the globe to find another like me AND come up with the goods!
Let me introduce Steve M. Nash, who for several reasons (recently broken heart, resides in England) could be classified as a whingeing Pom. But no. This guy is HAPPY! Now there's one out of the box! Like myself, Steve likes to help others live Happy Lives, and as a result has a lot to say about happiness here. So, if you think I'm just different, think again. I'm sure Steve M. and I aren't the only non-millionaire-happy-people on this planet.
Now where, was I? Oh yes...
A whole person, who is accepting and loving of themselves, needs no external 'trappings' (or even people) to enable them to be happy. Sure they may like them and have them, and there's nothing wrong with that, but a whole person feels so good about themselves they don't feel they need anything to make them happy. Think about it...........did you buy that new car/boat/house/outfit/yak-comb (in-joke - see recipe for a happy life) because you needed or wanted it - or because you wanted to impress people? Honestly?
When you learn to access the happiness from within, you will no longer feel the need to impress anyone - it's a very liberating place, the old happiness from within! You will feel good almost constantly, eradicating the need for external approval, love, awe, and esteem, because all of those emotions are inside you. You will feel the importance you now place on other people's opinion of you gradually slipping away, until you are the only one you need impress. You will still have your goals, dreams and desires, of course, but you approach them from a place of contentment, self-acceptance, and wholeness.
Being happy where you are now is essential to the Happy Life. If you can't be happy there - change it.
Still strive to be the best you can be but don't disallow yourself happiness until.......a, b, c, or d etc it's a waste of life -and we all know - Life is NOT a dress rehearsal!!
This whole site will give you the answers. If you find it hard to apply everything you read here, I've created a shortcut for you. My secret
gives you a quick overview of the necessities, AND, the only way to access it is to subscribe to my newsletter, which is another great shortcut. To help keep you ontrack, I'll deliver my regular newsletter to your inbox, keeping you motivated and inspired to be the best you can be. For you - not to impress anyone else!
Imagine how this planet could be if everyone learned to access the happiness from within...........if Hitler was happy within himself would World War 2 have happened? Would people feel the need to hurt and degrade others if they were happy within themselves? Nup. Not at all. It's too exciting to even dare to think about how different things could be. I'm happy to start a revolution one person at a time, starting with you! Let's get you happy and then we can start on your friends, family, acquaintances, and enemies (of course, you won't have any by then!).
I promise you, your whole life can look different when you tap into the happiness from within.
"Happiness is snuggled up in a quiet spot within you.
You need only be still and quiet and allow it to unfold, until it eventually engulfs you." Jacqueline Johns